If you want the single best introduction to the concept of the Red Pill, look no further than The Rational Male (2013) by Rollo Tomassi. The description below from Amazon is an apt summary of what this book is about and I will not attempt to steal Mr. Tomassi’s thunder by rewording his explanation.

“The Rational Male is a rational and pragmatic approach to intergender dynamics and the social and psychological underpinnings of intergender relations. The book is the compiled, ten-year core writing of author/blogger Rollo Tomassi from therationalmale.com. Rollo Tomassi is one of the leading voices in the globally growing, male-focused online consortium known as the “Manosphere.” Outlined are the concepts of positive masculinity, the feminine imperative, plate theory, operative social conventions, and the core psychological theory behind Game awareness and “red pill” ideology. Tomassi explains and outlines the principles of intergender social dynamics and foundational reasoning behind them.”

Rollo Tomassi

Tomassi is a southern California native who spent much of his twenties as a Los Angeles-based rock musician, which afforded him ample opportunity with a variety of women to lay (no pun intended) the foundations for this book on intergender relations in the feminized, post-modern, 21st-century West.

It bears mentioning that Tomassi has been a happily married man since his late twenties with at least one daughter. I point this out to show that this is not some angry, alpha-wannabe, misogynist jerkboy letting off steam to get back at all the women who have ever rejected his romantic advances. For what it’s worth, Tomassi also holds two bachelor degrees―one of which is in psychology.

Book Review

This book is in no way some lame pick-up artist (PUA) manual for the desperate, female-challenged man. There is a fair amount of scientific, evolutionary biology and evolutionary psychology behind the main concepts Tomassi returns to time and time again: the feminine imperative, female hypergamy, plate theory, competition anxiety etc.

It is worth noting that the book is really a compilation of the material Tomassi considers the best of his first year blogging at therationalmale.com. You can read most of the book on his blog, but the idea of reading close to the equivalent of 300 pages staring at a computer or phone screen held no appeal for me.

I won’t start elaborating in detail on the main ideas in The Rational Male or the Red Pill approach to women and life. I invite you, dear reader, to explore this broad, fascinating, and increasingly popular subject on your own. Suffice to say, that Tomassi’s entire effort is to better understand what truly drive men and women as they pursue relation(ship)s with one another. The idealized veneer of modern romance is stripped away to expose the fundamental motivations of each sex―motivations rooted predominantly in biology and, to some extent, cultural conditioning.

This anti-feminist book will assuredly make men more cynical about romance and relationships and will lead to throngs of shrieking, enraged women denouncing Tomassi’s discoveries and observations on the calculating, self-serving female nature. I also came away with a feeling of sadness and hopelessness, which could have been somewhat mitigated had Tomassi expanded upon how he has found lasting happiness in his marriage.

However, my main gripe with the book has to be the sloppy editing. The text is littered with typos, punctuation and grammatical errors, and formatting issues (e.g. very small typeface, two chapters numbered 10, inconsistent paragraph indentations etc.). I had to laugh when Tomassi mentions his editor at some point in the book.

The other problem I have is how Tomassi has a tendency to divide men into assertive, successful, masculine alphas or weak, loser, pushover betas. There is considerably more variety on the male spectrum in addition to these two simplistic extremes, and Vox Day has laid out a more reasonable and realistic socio-sexual hierarchy.

Overall, this interesting and thoroughly original book deserves four stars for the original content (not to mention highly inventive lingo), but the shoddy editing and substandard layout bring it down to three out of five stars for me. The Rational Male is most definitely worth reading and will certainly change and―I would argue―improve your understanding of women, dating, and relationships.

Best Quotes from the Book

A man is as confident and valuable as his options.

First principle of power: when you have power, always feign powerlessness.

Attention is the coin of the realm of female society.

Sexuality is a woman’s first, best agency and even the homeliest women know this.

Women should only ever be a compliment to a man’s life, never the focus of it.

The genders were meant to be complimentary, not adversarial.

In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.

Rejection is better than regret.

Power is the degree over which you control your own life.

Our great danger in this life is not that we aim too high and fail, but that we aim too low and succeed.

Nothing is as simultaneously fear inspiring and arousing for women as a man she suspects is self-aware of his own value.

A cardinal truth of the universe is that genuine desire cannot be negotiated.

Women always have the prerogative to change their minds. Men must be resolute.

Don’t wish things were easier, wish you were better.

Never under any circumstance live with a woman you aren’t married to or are not planning to marry within six months.

Women are fundamentally incapable of loving a man in the way that a man expects to be loved by a woman.

Men believe that love matters for the sake of it. Women love opportunistically.

Men are romantics pretending to be realists; women are realists pretending to be romantics.

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